Mark Manson

To be happy we need something to

solve. Happiness is therefore a form of

action; it’s an activity, not something that is passively bestowed upon you, not something that you magically discover in a top-ten article on the Huffington Post or from any specific guru or teacher. It doesn’t magically appear when you

finally make enough money to add on that extra room to the house. You don’t find it waiting for you in a place, an idea, a job—or even a book, for that matter.

Happiness is a constant work-in-

progress

people who are terrified of what others think about them are actually terrified of all the shitty things they think about themselves being reflected back at them

It’s not easy because you’re going to feel like a loser, a fraud, a dumbass at first. You’re going to be nervous. You’re going to freak out. You may get pissed off at your wife or your friends or your father in the process. These are all side effects of changing your values, of changing the fucks you’re giving. But they are inevitable.

One day, you and everyone you love will die. And beyond a small group of people for an extremely brief period of time, little of what you say or do will ever matter. This is the Uncomfortable Truth of life. And everything you think or do is but an elaborate avoidance of it. We are inconsequential cosmic dust, bumping and milling about on a tiny blue speck. We imagine our own importance. We invent our purpose—we are nothing.

There’s an old adage: I’d rather be judged by twelve than carried by six.

Emerson once wrote, "What you do speaks so loudly I cannot hear what you say." Seduction is an interplay of emotions. Your movement or lack of movement reflects and alters emotions, not the words. Words are the side-effect. Sex is the side-effect. The game is emotions, emotions through movement.

I believe that women don’t distinguish social status or being an "alpha male" through material possessions -- otherwise every guy flashing his expensive watch at the bar would be getting laid (and trust me, they’re not) -- but rather women judge it by behavior, as behavior is all they had to go on in the caveman days.

These are the three tenants of being a high status and a highly attractive man: treat others well, be treated well by others, and treat yourself well.

Status attracts women, but by itself, it only attracts them in a way that they want to be your girlfriend, not jump your bones.

On the other hand, being physically assertive and sexually forthright triggers a woman’s sexual arousal and makes her want to have sex.

Women don’t perceive status only by the words you say, they judge your status by all of your behavior -- towards them, towards others and but most importantly, towards yourself. Most of this behavior is non-verbal. And most of this non-verbal behavior happens subconsciously and cannot be faked.