Jan Geurtz

here are people who share their emotions with others, and bond with them in this way. And there are people who keep their emotions to themselves, and gain approval through a cool demeanour of steady reliability.

wing, embracing, integrating.

Other people’s love and approval are the drugs that we can’t live without, and will do anything to get.

These negative feelings are not really true, they don’t relate to what we are in reality, but only to what we’ve learned to think about ourselves.

fear is the cause, getting stuck in a pattern is the effect. All patterns arise from our fear of rejection, and the result is always more self-rejection.