My 1st Wife Had a Borderline Personality Disorder: A True Story Showing You How-to Break Free from an Unhealthy Marriage

20 years later, I realized that something else was going on. She often had blackout periods when she could not remember what had happened. Sometimes her demeanor changed so radically that I thought I was dealing with a different person

Even if you understand BPD behaviors, you need to know your own limits and stick by them — don’t ever allow yourself to be abused.
Realize that sometimes the only thing you can do is leave the relationship when your loved one repeatedly runs over your limits or when your loved one refuses treatment.

passivity is The Kiss of Death in any relationship with a Borderline. This principle holds true for therapists who treat individuals with BPD, as well. Quite simply, they need firm limits and boundaries

Toward the end of our marriage, when she kept going off the deep end, she would often scream, "You're crazy, you're so damn crazy, why did I ever marry you?"
Every projection the sociopath spews in your direction is soaked with the truth of who and what the sociopath is, not of who or what you are.

Do what I want RIGHT NOW!" Over the years she had conditioned me, like a rat in a cage

she once ran out of gas and could not figure out why her car would not run, even though the gas gauge read empty

My wife was impractical.
Early in our marriage she would forget to fill-in the stubs of our meager joint checking account so I did not know how much money was in the bank. She could get quite miffed when I criticized her for this

she admitted she had had a number of one-night stands -- while, at the same time, being wildly jealous of any female I talked to or noticed

She Was A Flirt
But I Did Not Catch On

when we were traveling she did have my full attention -- and traveling is not boring so she was constantly entertained