Beginning With Myself: A Simple Guideline for Personal Development and Healing

When we experience hurt, pain, or a traumatic event part of us gets injured, or breaks. Through our healing process, we may think that we are healed because mentally we have said to ourselves, ‘“I feel fine, I'm over it”, and things of that sort. We may find however, if we are in a given situation, something might trigger a certain response in us. This ultimately means that we are not fully healed. This is why it’s so important to face whatever feelings we might have, head on. When we address our feelings, and try to grow and heal through it, the odds of us letting go and being completely healed are greater.

We also have to understand that not every bad thing that happens to us is a lesson from karma. Many times bad things happen because we are not fully present and we make poor decisions.

Also, be cautious as to who you allow in your mental and emotional space.

Well because of our terrible past experiences, we often anticipate that once in a new situation, our experience will be the same as the last one we had, and sadly we project that onto others who are oblivious to what we have been through. A man who has had his wife cheat on him is very likely to treat his partner in a new relationship like she was the offender. He may go on thinking and treating every woman like she is a liar and a cheat. This is why letting go and healing properly is so vital to our emotional and mental health.

Generally in our hearts, intentions, and words, we are good and positive people. However, many of us have that one person, or thing which no matter how hard we try, still brings out the worst in us. Whether it be through our words, thoughts or actions. When we find ourself in that place, we have to realize that whatever pushes us to act so negatively is poison to our soul. Therefore we have to get rid of it.