Inner Bitch Guide to Men, Relationships, Dating, Etc

Real romances. The kind that add to your life without either party spinning out of control. The kind where you build the relationship together, finding out what works for you and what doesn’t, and you have fun along the way. The kind that everyone says they want.

It can be just as hard, if not harder, to share your life with someone as it is to be alone

But then it became apparent that I was spending an awful lot of energy trying to figure out how I seemed to other people and adjusting my behavior to their expectations

Which, despite the fact that I’d been me for a fairly long time at that point, wasn’t as easy as I expected. In part this was because I’d spent so many years focused on how other people saw me that I hadn’t really given much thought to how I saw myself—a classic symptom of Toxic Niceness.