Your life works better when you process your feelings in the moment they occur, rather than storing them.
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Holding on to feelings consumes much more energy than communicating them
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“It’s been X amount of time, you should be over it by now.” You may even be saying it to yourself.
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Telling others your positive feelings is easy
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We then start to build up a collection of uncommunicated thoughts and feelings that clog up our memories and make it difficult for us to participate fully in life.
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We learn that sad, painful, or negative thoughts are not well received, so we store them too.
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When we bypass our natural ability to communicate what we feel, we develop the bad habit of using our bodies as storage tanks rather than processing plants.
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the feelings we have in reaction to events that have emotional impact on us are not forgotten. If they are not forgotten and not communicated to someone else, it’s likely that we are somehow storing the memories of those feelings inside our bodies.
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In our seminars and trainings we have observed that when asked how something felt people often respond by telling us what they thought. It almost always seems as if they are more comfortable talking about thoughts than feelings.
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If I lie and hide my feelings, how can it help you feel safe enough to communicate your sad feelings?